In the realm of virtual courtship, the proposition of simply being “real” can feel a bit passé in the infinite sea of profiles, enticing taglines, and artfully arranged images. Yet, it’s exactly this authenticity that draws people in and builds something that could turn into a solid relationship.
Creating genuine authenticity can be helped by following some basic strategies. So, if you want to get noticed for who you are, not what you look like, read on to find a few helpful tips.
Write an Honest Bio
Your dating profile acts somewhat like a window to your personality, so let your personality shine. Talk about what genuinely moves or excites you. You’re not required to give your potential date an essay’s worth of info about yourself but don’t be afraid to talk about random thoughts or ideas.
If you’ve got a half-baked idea for a novel, use that. If you’ve got a 40-hour-a-week traveling job, use that. Talk about what you know, whether it’s a deep dive into a serious issue or critiques of your favorite TV shows or movies.
Use Photos that Reflect Your Lifestyle
While it remains tempting to share heavily edited or staged photos (or to not share at all), know that doing so could affect your first impression in a negative way. Aim for photos that capture different aspects of your life and that you’re comfortable sharing with others.
Photos with good lighting and sharp focus help, too. There’s no need to use unconventional photos to stand out; you can do that just fine by being yourself.
Be Clear About Your Values and What You’re Looking For
If you truly want to get noticed for who you are, not what you look like – knowing what matters to you and being straightforward about it goes a long way with potential partners. Sure, what you want in a relationship at a given moment might change with circumstances or over time.
But there’s still plenty for you to be clear and certain about. Tell the other person what you hold dear and why. If they’re not cool with it, that’s a sign. If they are, that could be a sign, too.
Avoid Trying to Impress
What might be seen as showing off could actually be a major turn-off. If you want to avoid that pitfall, share honestly (and with a good dose of humility) the reasons behind the successes and cool experiences you’ve had in life.
Talk about what those things mean to you and why they matter. And trust that the real you has more than enough appeal without embellishing or bragging.
Get Noticed for Who You Are, Not What You Look Like.
In a world where it’s easy to get lost in the crowd, embracing authenticity can be your greatest asset. By showing who you truly are, you’ll attract people who resonate with your genuine self, leading to more meaningful and lasting connections.
Otherwise, you are putting a version of yourself out there that will be impossible to continue to portray over the course of a relationship.